I’m sharing how I live on purpose in support of my friend Dr. Danielle Dowling and her new book The Soul Sessions, a 5-week guide to crafting greater joy and making big things happen. Get a wee, free sample here!

The thing about living on purpose is that it’s a constant struggle. It never ends, and it’s something you have to consciously do every single day.

You have to get out of bed in the morning ready to say yes or no to everything that comes your way.

This sounds like such an easy thing – but it absolutely IS NOT.

Because there are expectations to live up to (yours and others). There are people to make happy. And there are things to get done.

But you can’t say yes to everything. And sometimes you have to say no to things that you’d really like to do – but just can’t.

For me, that is the key to living on purpose. I have to find the balance between what will move me further down the river and what is pulling me back like a giant anchor.

On any given day, I have a certain number of client expectations to deal with.  And kids to run to this and that. And meals to prepare. And laundry to do. And a house to keep clean. And appointments to keep. And a husband to love. And friends to be there for. And family who just needs a call every now and then. And the overwhelming-ness of it all is just sometimes too much.

And I have to say no.

I had to say no to my daughter being in Girl Scouts because she’s already in three other activities and I have two other kids who have things going on too.

I had to say no to a client who would probably be a decent source of income because every time I work on his project, I end up on the phone with him 20x a day and nothing ever gets done.

I had to say no to volunteering in everyone’s classrooms at school because there just aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done (and remain sane).

But then there is the yes. How do I decide what gets a yes?

There are times I say yes, even though for all the reasons listed above I should say no.

When I choose to ignore the reasons and say yes, it’s because the place in my gut that tells me when things are right is screaming at me that it may seem like I don’t have time for this…but it’s going to be a rock solid decision.

That knowing from my gut guides me. It tells me to run or stay fast.

And thank the Lord it does – because otherwise I’d be floating about unsure of what way to go next.

Not that I’m not. Because sometimes I am floating. Sometimes I’m not sure which way is the next step.

In those times when things just aren’t working…when it seems like I’m no more useful than a blob…I start to toss things.

The moments of clarity arrive as I’m ditching the things that no longer work for me. Whether it’s clothes that I don’t wear, or a stack of papers that required my attention a month ago – tossing the clutter is a sure-fire way to get my fire stoked again.

Because I don’t know about you…but the fire inside me is just like any other fire. It needs to be maintained. It has to be stoked. And it can be snuffed.

And this is exactly my point. Living on purpose every single day is the best way to keep your fire burning. Taking care of yourself in an intentional way will always keep your fire stoked. It will guide you to the best decisions for you. And it will help you find the projects and people that will keep you moving forward.

I wrote another post about this kind of thing on my new project She Changes Everything She Touches…check it out if you have time.


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